About Me

A 30 something lesbian coffee drinker from London attempting to record and share our ttc journey. Hobbies and activities - dining out with The Wife, increasing our carbon footprint, napping, over sharing on Facebook, hunting for decent second hand book shops, pretending to knit.

Friday, 22 November 2013

Induction @ 39w..

Induction @ 39 + 1

So, on Tuesday 29th Oct we had the go ahead to go down to the hospital for 10:30 - rather keenly, we were buzzing the ward at 10:15. Got taken into a small room with just two beds and at that point, the other was empty. Sat around for a while and finally, around 12ish, a MW inserted the first pessary. And so we waited. The pessary was removed the next day, 24 hours later, and we were informed it hadn't made any difference. Blah. We were then told that at 6pm, the second one would be inserted. Meanwhile a rather hysterical woman was admitted, who huffed and puffed about having to share a room (er, this is the NHS you fool, not the Hilton) - eventually she was carted off to the labour ward. Hoo-fucking-ray and good riddance.

Spent a ridiculous amount of time on the monitor and made the unfortunate mistake of saying I hadn't been to the loo so they then insisted I put an enema in place and then they weren't happy to put the next pessary in till a few hours later. It got to the point where I had been on the monitor for hours and hours and I began to get VERY worked up. I was dreading the next pessary going in (completely overestimated my pain threshold!) so by the time it got to 9pm, I started to get really rather anxious. The MW on that particular shift wasn't very confident and double checked everything with a consultant and a senior MW - hence the delay. By the time they came to boot The Wife out around 10pm, I had an utter melt down and insisted she stayed. They fought me on this, stating the visiting rules to which I calmly informed them if they had actually inserted the pessary at the 6 hour mark, we would have been within visiting hours. Another MW came to argue this (she actually said 'don't cross the MW) to which I said fine, send The Wife home but we'll insert the next pessary tomorrow when she returns - after all - you've made me wait all day - what's another night? (This doesn't go down well)

In the end I got my way (kapow!) and high on gas and air, it went in around midnight. Back on the monitor for another two hours and then a dreadful nights sleep. 

When The Wife arrived the next morning I was extremely tearful, (probably due to exhaustion as I hadn't slept at all for a 2nd night and I had more monitoring early on) Wasn't allowed to leave the ward as apparently the consultant would be around to check me (they like to administer the next pessary, rather than a MW)

Around 10:30, I was informed the consultant was now available which surprised me as I had prepared myself for another days wait. Got puffing on the gas and air and was rather shocked in my drug induced state to hear him say he could break my waters. Looked away when he brought out the 'hook' - felt instantly calmer after he left, purely because we were finally moving forward. Lay on the bed for an hour or so, as my waters came. 

They then informed us we were being moved to the labour unit around lunchtime, which surprised us, as we have anticipated more waiting around.

Anaesthetist came down to do the epidural - after half an hour of jabbing at me, decided she needed fresh eyes and called down another one. ...

Who didn't want to do it, as I wasn't in active labour at that point. Argued with her for a bit and pointed out the consultant had written an early epidural into my notes. Could feel my anxiety levels rising but the MW then dragged her outside to see the consultant... who told her to just do it, which she did. Had various checks through the night (The Wife stayed around the clock) and didn't dilate very well at all. Was told that my final check would be at 11am on Friday am and if no more than 6cm, it would be a section. I was kinda hopeful at this point because I was asking for an epidural top up every 45 mins towards the end. Because I'd had the mobile epidural, I was able to get up, go to the loo (but that was it, due to the constant monitoring) 
Early Friday am I decided I needed the loo so hopped out of bed and er, dropped dramatically to the floor in a heap - my right leg has completely given way. Apparently it was a rather graceful fall, as falls go! MW called the buzzer and a few MW's and The Wife managed to get me back on the bed, from which I didn't move from till Saturday morning after the section.

Consultant came in, checked me and delivered the news we were expecting. Got taken into theatre - shook the whole time (think the quickness of if all sent me into a little bit of shock) - at 12:34 he was lifted out to the sound of The Wife saying 'Holy shit, it's a baby' (!!) - he was shown to me and then taken away to be cleaned and then brought back to me to be held, whilst they stitched me up. Felt very overwhelmed at this point - none of it seemed real. I was obviously elated that he seemed perfect and healthy but I didn't feel emotional, nor did I cry. When they finally took me into recovery, he was having skin to skin with The Wife. Then they put him on my chest and various people kept coming in and trying to show me how to bf but it was the last thing I wanted to do. I felt completely overwhelmed by the last 4 days, tired and panicked. I felt panicked I didn't feel the instant love/bond everyone talks about. I kept that to myself and quietly lay in the bed doing exactly as I was told (apart from sneaking sips of Sprite which was a total no no, apparently)

It was around 8pm, after all my visitors had gone when I managed to lift him (in agony) out of the cot and on to my chest....where I felt a BOOM and that boom was my heart exploding. I feel teary typing that... now I can't even believe after recovery I was panicked about bonding....

We had a few dreadful nights on the ward - I hadn't anticipated how hard it would be to pick him up out of the crib in the hospital when no one else was around. I was up on the Saturday morning the second they took the catheter out and threw myself into the shower but felt very, very fragile. We battled back and forth with trying to get him to latch but to no avail. Eventually, we had to give him a formula top up due to his glucose levels dropping, which broke my heart. The Wife arrived on the Sunday morning with high hopes of taking us both home. She found me sitting, sobbing, on a blood soaked bed (no one came to change the sheets) - it was also covered in L's sick. I was a mess because the MW had said they wouldn't discharge us until I could prove I had bf twice, unaided. I felt like such a failure and I was pretty broken, after 2 days of induction, 18 hours of labouring and an emcs. I just wanted out. I ended up saying I would formula feed, just to leave. I sat sobbing and looking quite vacant whilst The Wife gave him aptamil. That part is fairly hazy to me now and actually, even the first day or so - the memories are blurry - I think it is very much related to the pain relief and lack of sleep. We finally left in the pm and I began to feel so much better, the minute I was home and in my own surroundings. I swore I'd never be induced again straight after the c section but now life seems to have calmed down, I'd quite happily do it all again...

Pics below:

Day of induction 
The Boom moment 
Skin to skin just after birth - Mom and Lochlan 


Escape from hospital 


Mummy and Lochlan 
Daisy and her baby


Three weeks old today!




Friday, 8 November 2013

Lochlan Michael is here!

Lochlan Michael was born last Friday, 1st November, via emergency section, weighing 7lb 4oz.

Birth story to follow...


Monday, 14 October 2013

Full term!

And about bloody time! 

I have been feeling complainy and sorry for myself since 30w and it is progressively getting worse. I realllllly feel for the many people who listen to my complaints and moments of woes (you know who you are!)

I SWORE I wouldn't become *that* person but alas, I have succumbed to the third trimester pity party. I'm in pain with SPD to the point I don't go out unless necessary. Necessary basically means the labour ward recently with reduced movements. That's it. Not even the grocery store! Sob.

I am TIRED. Sleep is pointless. I'm up 5 times a night whether it be a loo trip or a dramatic bout of acid reflux (fun!)

My hips hurt, my pelvis hurts, so trying to get comfy in bed is near impossible. The actual thought of having to go another 5 weeks to 42 sends shivers down my spine. I shan't. They cannot make me. 

(Still a bit unsure who 'they' are)

So: operation get baby out has begun in earnest. All the usual tricks - I won't go into too much graphic detail. And so now we wait. 

Photos: 


37w exactly!


Bag - finally packed.


My staple breakfast these days - if it doesn't show up glucose in my urine - I probably don't want it. 


She knows.


Wednesday, 18 September 2013

33w





How far along? 33 weeks
How big is baby? Honeydew melon 
Total weight gain/loss: 2lbs up
Maternity Clothes: Have been buying dresses in autumnal colours 
Have you started to show yet? Yep....pretty apparent I'm knocked up!
Sleep: Up at least 3 times a night - baby is now head down, hooray!
Best moment this week: Watching him move across my tummy.....still amazes me
Miss Anything? Nope
Movement: He is extremely active @ the moment, considering at this stage they are supposedly running out of room...
Food Cravings: Scones with clotted cream and jam, mhhhh
Anything make you queasy or sick? The bloody iron tablets I'm taking for anaemia!
Gender prediction: NA
Symptoms: Have been diagnosed with SPD. Joy.
Major purchases this week?  Nothing!

Friday, 6 September 2013

32 weeks

(well, I will be on Monday)

So, where to start? 

Firstly, we moved house. Today we have been in the new apartment for exactly one week and it is slowlyyyyy starting to feel like home. We still need to buy new furniture - for example the living room has a nice new couch in (which Daisy-the-cat is enjoying scratching the shit out of), a TV and er, that's it. Baby's room is devoid of furniture and The Wife has appointed it her dressing room for the time being. The move was not without stress - and I do NOT recommend moving when in the third trimester. I am extremely tired at the moment and have just start started taking iron supplements as my levels have dropped, which I hear is pretty normal at this stage. It's been frustrating because usually when we move house I pretty much run the show and have everything organised in the first few days - that has literally been impossible. 

Yesterday we has a bit of a scare: no movements all day. Tried not to get to hysterical about it, but if I am honest I started thinking the worst. He is usually extremely active - the day before I was watching him move across my tummy and could almost grab an arm or a leg. To have nothing yesterday put into a  complete  tailspin - The Wife wanted to head straight to triage. I tried to remain calm and suggested we wait till I had eaten dinner but still nothing after that. In desperation I ate a LOT of chocolate and low and behold, he started kicking off. Thankfully this morning he is just as active. Whilst we don't feel quite ready for him, we both wanted him out and with us last night.

Size wise, something doesn't seem right: I'm still the same weight now at 32 weeks as I was the day we found out we were pregnant. But measured 34cm at 30w so knows what is going on?! I've  been tested for gestational diabetes which thankfully, came back clear. Maybe water? Maybe a big baby? Maybe I'm just short!

In more cheery news, I have gone on a bit of a spree and ordered the nursery furniture and wintery maternity clothes. Don't think I'm going to be able to run around in little dresses and flip flops for much longer!

My thoughts these days are very much focused on the birth plan and having the perfect birth (ha) - if anyone feels like sharing theirs, pls do!



Monday, 12 August 2013

I am SO lazy..

...and tired. We've had builders working on the apartment above for 5 weeks. 5. I am on my last nerve and so, so tired. I don't sleep well at all these days and can't even squeeze in a cat nap in the day. Hey ho - 3 more weeks and we'll living in our new 2 bed apartment - hoo-fucking-ray.

I could write more... about the complexities of choosing nursery furniture or the fact I was in the ER room last Wed but I'm simply far too lazy. Suffice to say, everything is ok and I'm suffering with muscular problems/possible SPD.

I'll leave you with some recent photos and promise to make more of an effort next time...

28w pics:




Wednesday, 17 July 2013

Tardiness, heat and brioche rolls

So, yeah, I know - I've been pretty lapse with the 'ole blog recently. I re-read a few posts recently from last year - so much more enthusiastic back in the day. Decided today would be the perfect opportunity to update - apparently the temperature may hit 34 in London so I am sensibly hiding inside and attempting to keep cool. I don't even think being pregnant is really that relevant - everyone I know is struggling at the moment and according to reports there appears to be no break for this English heat wave. *fans self*

On Monday we reached the fantastic milestone that is 24 weeks. We were quietly jubilant, and yet: we still worry. I think as the weeks go on we allow ourselves to become more attached and therefore the idea of a loss is simply incomprehensible. Of course the likelihood of that happening is extremely slim but still - we worry.

Regardless of our various concerns we DO need to get organized and therefore the spending and nesting has begun in earnest. (Pretty difficult considering we are in the middle of a house move which may fall through so we are currently in limbo land) We have purchased the pram, which I guess is one of the bigger purchases out of the way - we went for the Bugaboo Camelon 3, in black. Had absolutely no intention of buying such an expensive pram but after trying out various models we were won over (well, The Wife was) Turns on a penny and so easy to fold up - do NOT want to be wrestling with a pram come November. We also purchased the car seat (maxi cosi cabriofix) and the mattress for the cot, which potentially could be going back. I've been picking up sleep suits weekly on my travels/online in various sizes - collection building up quite nicely. We also have a stack of gifts already which we are extremely grateful for.

Due to the lack of space in our current property, we had decided to just purchase a cot but 'if' the house move goes through and we have a second bedroom then we are buying a nursery set from Mama's and Papa's. Hopefully we should know by Friday, so fingers crossed pls!

There are so many other things to get but I need to take a deep breathe and realize Rome wasn't built a day. Baby NFC will not remember if we don't have 3 wraps available for him the day he arrives. I can feel myself getting caught up in the FTM hysteria and commercialization of it all and I *really* didn't want that to happen....but is it even possible to fight it?

On a physical level I'm doing ok (major lower back pain at the weekend) although no weight gain at all, in fact loss. Very odd considering the size of my bump at 24 weeks and the fact people keep referring to the size of the bump. My next MW appointment isn't till 28 weeks so hopefully the MW will be able to measure my tummy and give us an indication of what we are looking at.

How far along? 24+2
How big is baby? Corn on the cob!
Total weight gain/loss: loss - 7lbs
Maternity Clothes: dresses, flip flops.
Have you started to show yet? Yeahhhh no hiding this puppy!
Sleep: Struggling but mostly due to teeny tiny bladder and the heat
Best moment this week: Hitting 24 weeks!
Miss Anything? Not so much now.
Movement: Baby kicks all the time – very exciting to see tummy move
Food cravings: Sugar. Muffins, brioche rolls, and bacon sandwiches
Anything make you queasy or sick? Feel very sick each morning again but it goes once I have eaten
Gender prediction: Having a BOY!
Symptoms: Very sore lower back
Major purchases this week? Fuzzi Bunz cloth nappies